Judgment!

   a formal utterance of an authoritative opinion



Thank you everyone for your responses.    I agree with all of them.  To me cheating is just that.  Leaving your relationship to form another.   I don't claim to have a perfect marriage, but I have personally never been in a situation where I developed an emotional connection to someone of the opposite sex.  

 I do have a friend, going through a lot right now.  We talk often, and my heart breaks for her.  Sometimes I question the advice I give.  Am I throwing my judgment into the conversation?   That is something I hope to never do.    

To often I think we find ourselves judging others.   I admit I have.   Seeing that mother dressed to the 9's, while her children trail behind her with no coat, and in need of a bath.   It just makes my blood boil.   That is just one small example.  For the most part I keep my mouth shut, or vent to a friend.  

I have spent a great deal of time thinking about judgments these past few weeks.  Having just gone through something recently where I was judged.  It hurt, and made me angry.    I spent weeks dealing with the whispers, stares, and talking to my kids (who were hearing all of it from adults).  No one deserves it.   I'm still a bit hurt by it all, and probably will be for a while, but I did learn something.  What we say out loud can and does affect those around us.   Making the choice to knowingly say something that will cause hurt, and pain in someones life makes you a coward.   And, no matter what there will always be cowards...


Because I know you all will ask, yes we did handle it.   Things have resumed a sense of normal here, and for the most part the couple of people that started it,  now have egg all over their faces.  GOOD!  Maybe they will have learned something.   People are all vastly different, that is what makes life so fun.  Who wants to know the same 10 people that are just like them?  I sure don't.  I love hearing about other political beliefs (Even if they are wrong)..    Or what my friends are reading.  Heck, most days you can find me watching Vampire Diaries.  Thanks to a FRIEND!  you really should check it out..

That is a big part of why we have kept our kids out of the country for so many years.   I wanted them to experience the world.  To know and understand that 1 way is not always the right way.  The world is a big place, and in some small way we all revolve around one another.  When the tsunami hit Japan, the world came together to help.   If the world banking system crashes it affects us all.  *unless like my grandmother did, you keep your money under your mattress*

Unfortunately no matter where we live, and in some cases because of where we live... There will always be those people who knowingly hurt those around them over and over.  Maybe that is the biggest lesson of all,  that my kids will take away from this.  Like my father always said,  not all lessons are good ones, just necessary ones!